Ways to Ensure your Child Becomes a Successful Adult
Most parents try their best to raise good kids. This is something to aspire for the short term. Hardly do they think of what their present behavior means for their future lives. A child can be good now, but it does not assure you they will remain so in future. The better approach is not to think too much about the present, but to work on it to promote future behavior.
There is a disconnect when it comes to having good kids and them becoming great adults. A good kid is usually one who is obedient, who does as they are told without question, who lets adults speak, and will not question authority in any way. These traits will not make such a great adult later. It is more important to aid them to learn how to think for themselves, to question what they are not comfortable with and not to follow people around blindly.
With time, most parents will start to say how their kids are not ambitious, or independent, or ready to go out there and face the world. It is easy at that juncture for them to forget how they helped make them that way. It is therefore unfair for the parent to expect miracles to happen. They failed to raise them right.
It needs plenty of patience, energy and skill to raise them right. You may have to keep your ego in check. There are occasions when you will have to allow them to question your motives. You need to let them learn how to voice their opinions, so that they develop some perspective on things. They should also learn how to solve issues on their own. You need to also listen to them, especially where it is their welfare in question. If their argument us reasonable and within scope, you should change your position as well. You should also teach them to admit when they are wrong, by example. This should not be taken as a ticket for the child to become rude, to do whatever they want, or to behave disrespectfully. You are imparting adult traits in the child in a safe and controlled atmosphere. Let it be known you are the one in charge. The objective here is to allow them room to learn better traits.
Anything you tell them has to be grounded in reason and logic, not a command they cannot fathom. You will discover more success in the process when you become the kind of person they will be proud to copy. Kids respond better to what you do than what you say.
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